This Mother’s Day, I would like to honor the women who carried but never got to meet their babies. The ones we lost after conception due to miscarriages, abortions and still births. The precious ones are only known in the womb connected by a deep intrinsic bond with their mother, the one's that never made it to meet the world waiting for them. The ones who didn’t makes sense to anyone but us-the mothers. Many many women have endured these type of losses, often invisible to the outside and without the support of a known loss. Some babies named, some unnamed, but never forgotten.
Walking the journey of pregnancy loss personally and with so many women through my work has changed many things I once believed about the world. Society underestimates how painful it is. Losing a baby is a death that you need to grieve, just as when you lose any other loved one. Sadly, this is rarely talked about and existing support is minimal.
It is absolutely normal to experience many different emotions and these might last for months or years. Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to grieve a lost pregnancy. I find when I least expect to be confronting my extensive pregnancy loss experiences is exactly when I must.
So I think I am showing up here to call this out and say you are not alone.
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